;)

       1. He always make plans at the last minute.

He may have several rods on the fire. You might not be his
favorite rod. If nothing else comes along then you pop into his
head. Some men just like to keep their options open. They have
several choices available and don’t want to make the wrong
decision or commit to a date too soon in the event that something
better might come along. You have to decide if this is something
you can tolerate. If you are not that into him either, it may
work out perfectly for you (a girls gotta eat), but if you are
waiting by the phone this may be sign to move on. I personally
would not feel I was being treated respectfully in this
situation.I would feel I deserved to be treated better.

2. He’s not taking an active role in becoming part of your world.

If a man is serious about you, he will usually make the effort to
get to know the people who are important to you. Whether it’s
your friends or family, he will want it to be known that he is
your man and he will usually try hard to make a good impression.
This is how some men mark their territory. Hey, it doesn’t hurt
if everyone loves him and sings his praises to you. If he doesn’t
care about that, he simply might not care about you. If he does
care about you, but doesn’t want to be involved in your world…
well, that’s a whole other story. You come to your own
conclusion, but if it were me… I’d rethink the relationship.

3. He doesn’t go to events that are important to you.

Once in awhile if he has a good excuse or is ill or
something…that’s ok. If you see a pattern, it may be time to
trade up. Something that is important to you should be equally
important to him. If it is not, then it might be a sign that
either he is not that into you, he prefers his friends to you, or
he is simply too self-centered to stop for a minute and please
someone other then himself. If you’ve really hit the jackpot, he
may be a combination of all three. Either way, pay attention to
the signs and decide if you feel you are worthy of more.

4. He stays in close contact with his single friends.

If a guy does not part with his single friends, you can be fairly
certain he is not going to give up the single life either. Some
guys are just players: they have to keep their options open and
have a certain amount of emotional distance. Having single
friends when you are dating is the best of both worlds. He may
continue to get close to you, but his friends are never far
behind. They attend events with you and have permission to just
drop by at their whim. You don’t want your guy to give up his
friends, but it may be a sign of trouble if he insists that you
spend most of your time together hanging out with his buddies.

If he is not a player, but just very social, make sure your needs
are met as well. Hanging out with the buds can be fun, but
sometimes alone time is also needed in a relationship. If the
situation meets your needs, then great. If not, then decide if
this is something you can get used to.

5. Night time is the right time… all the time.

If he loves the nightlife and the nightlife loves him even after
you have been dating for a while, this might just be his way of
life. If this is your way of life, then you have just met your
soulmate. I wish you well. However, historically when couples
first start dating they tend to go out a lot, stay out late, and
dance the night away. Once you settle in, though, and get closer
in the relationship, the pendulum swings to quite nights at home
and romantic dinners. If this is where you are hoping the
pendulum would swing, then it may be a good time to express your
needs and see if he can meet them. Don’t ask or expect him to
change if that is who he is and what makes him happy. Accept the
fact that you want different things. It may be time to send this
one back and explore the other “fishies in the sea”.

6. You never see him more then once a week (ok… sometimes twice),
even after you have been dating several months

Is he super busy or are you play toy number 7? He might have one
for every day of the week, and you only can see him twice if
numbers 1 through 6 are busy. Hey, it happens … mostly because he
has been allowed to get away with it. Just don’t be naive and
think he is sitting home 6 nights alone. If this is acceptable to
you, then by all means enjoy your time together when it happens.
I guess you will certainly never get sick of each other. If you
need more see if he can (or more importantly will) meet your
needs. If not…get those shoes on and start walking.

7. You only have his cell number after you have been dating each
other for a more then a month.

If it’s been months and you haven’t asked him about that…allow
me…he’s either living with someone else or he doesn’t want you
calling his house in case he has another woman over. The cell
phone he can turn off or set to vibrate... How perfect is that?
When you are into someone (and not dating other women too) you
want her to feel free totally comfortable calling you anytime. It
shows commitment and openness. If he is not showing these signs
outwardly, it might be an indication that you are dating a very
busy man. If it feels like a duck and quacks like a duck… yup,
it’s a duck. This little trick was used on me, and I must say I
didn’t catch on for quite a while. I was too naive…I’m all grown
up now.



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© 2004-2005 Cathi Adams.

Cathi Adams is the author of "Divorce Secrets: What Every Women
Should Know." This invaluable resource provides steps to ensure
financial security to woman faced with the possibility of
divorce.
Visit her web site for a FREE report –What You Absolutely Must
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