45| Write your comments | Vote |By: Kirsten Hawkins |Type: Self Improvement | 2005-09-12 |
Title: Our Worst Enemy
Who do you consider as your worst enemy? The criminals roaming
the dark streets? Your boss who's killing you mentally and
emotionally with stress and harsh words? The people in office
who are engaging in graft and corruption, instead of helping
those in need?
We have many implications of who our enemies are; but we have
one common foe who is the main cause of our failures and
misfortunes, and we're not even aware of this opponent.
You may not want to admit it, but our worst enemy is ourselves.
Who do you blame when something goes wrong? You blame the
people around you, the weather, maybe even God. But we are the
ones who are in control of ourselves. We can change the outcome
of our lives because we have the capacity to do that.
It is our fear, jealousy, greed, etc. that is ruining our
lives. Some people who never managed to get out of poverty
blame the government or their jobs. But they're too afraid to
try out new ventures that may improve their lives. They
half-heartedly go to work on their 9 to 5 job. Then when the
day is done, they watch TV and go out aimlessly having fun
without seriously thinking of what great opportunity the future
has in store for them, if only they would try to do something
different with their lives.
Fear has caused many to remain frigid and to never go out
exploring the wonderful things this world has to offer. Lots of
people would rather stay where they are in an unsatisfied state
than to risk difficulties and obstacles for the sake of
attaining their dreams.
If their lives are not getting any better, they have no else to
blame but themselves.
Jealousy and envy has also caused some relationship problems.
Some people immediately jump to conclusions without first
analyzing the situation. They let their sudden emotions control
their behaviors without even thinking of the consequences that
may result.
If they're having problems with their relationships, they have
no else to blame but themselves.
This goes to show that we decide what will happen to us. Of
course, there are circumstances that are beyond our control,
like natural calamities. But we can still utilize to our best
advantage the things that we have control of.
For instance, you got rejected by your dream girl. Some people
would just get drunk and feel miserable, thinking that it's the
end of the world. Some will move onwards with their lives and
find the best in what remains with them. See? It's really up to
you. You decide if you want to have a good life or not.
You failed in your exams? So what? There's another opportunity.
You can just sulk in sorrow or you can study harder to get a
high score in the future. It's up to you.
There's no use crying over spilled milk. You don't have to get
frustrated over your misfortunes. Concentrate on how you could
get better in the future.
If we encounter problems, we can either succumb to it, or we
can treat it as an opportunity to become stronger and to become
better individuals. Winners would always treat their dilemmas as
opportunities.
Oh yes. We can be our worst enemy, but we can also be our best
friend. It's all up to you!
About The Author: Kirsten Hawkins is a self-improvement
enthusiast and freelance writer from Nashville, TN. Visit
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self-improvement tips, strategies, and resources.
Author: Kirsten Hawkins